In this session we are going to discuss and begin to solve a problem that has plagued most of us for a long long time. This is the issue of anger and anxiety and how these two negative emotions are tied together in our minds. This subject has been delibera y saved until the end of the series because it takes a solid cognitive foundation first for you to begin to put this into place into your life effectively. As you already know by this time not everyone was social anxiety disorder is alike. But the vast majority of us have a history of unpleasantness stemming from our childhood be it a daily barrage of criticism emotional upheaval as in the home or family being put down by peers at school or some other emotionally traumatic event that we had to live through when we were younger. Since we are all different some of you may not have had a negative childhood and you may not need to use this next method. But listen to it please and judge for yourself because if you do need it it is an essential piece of the social anxiety puzzle. When we were younger we could not talk back or be assertive with those who are then in control of our lives. For example if an adult was critical of you while you were growing up his criticisms may have hurt and stung you but in most cases. You could not answer back because of your natural anxiety and fear. As children in adolescence we did not have the ability and many times the permission to be assertive. So what did we do with all the anger that was created in us because of these experiences. Since we couldn't get the anger out we buried it or repressed it. We couldn't fight back at that time and we weren't allowed to express our anger so what else could we do but hold it in . Now we need to be careful because anger is one of the more negative emotions. We want to be able to release our buried anger that is anger from the past without having to go back and revisit it. It will do us no good at all to go back and try to remember all the injustices we suffered at a younger age. That will only fan and fuel our symptoms and make everything worse. What we need to do is allow our minds to release let go and set free of varied anger from the past so the past no longer has any power over us. Know that the secret to doing this however is that we handle the buried anger in irrational positive manner we are not going to fan it or fuit we are not going to exacerbate it or deliberaنقرتين لعرض الصورة في صفحة مستقلةy try to bring it to the surface. We need to handle anger in a general way. Not by remembering anything specific at all but simply by giving your brain permission to release this pent up anger in any legitimate way that it can. Notice we are not forgiving anyone here and we are not doing any analyzing about this we are simply going with the facts we have some buried repressed anger and us that occurred as a result of other people at another time in our lives. Nevertheless it is buried or repressed and our minds and we have to be the ones to let it go This we will do in a general way not by looking for anything under the microscope. Let's begin the process with a few things you can say to yourself that will help. Edit this statement in any way that you want but you should say something along these lines. I have very repressed anger inside me due to years in years of emotional abuse. This is legitimate anger and I have every right to be angry. I was younger when this happened to me and I didn't know how to handle these situations. That's perfectly normal. Even though this was entirely unfair I know that complaining about it or rehashing it over and over will just make things worse. It does mean no good to dwell on these things anymore. In fact the more I do on the past the angrier and more helpless I feel. Instead I choose to move forward with my life. Although I cannot forget what happened in the past I can let go. Go of the emotional feelings the anger that is buried in my mind. Repressed anger is holding me back from living the kind of life I want to live. So for myself and for my own healing I let go of those old very negative emotions I set them free I release them I let them go. I give my brain permission to set those negative emotions free whether I am asleep or awake conscious or not conscious. I am going to live in the present and be free of the emotional garbage of the past. Our next hand out will help you to be able to set any buried or repressed anger free. It is called letting go of the negative past .

قضية القلق و الغضب السلبيه و علاقة ارتباطهما في اذهاننا . لابد ان تعرف ان الجميع لا يعانون من القلق الاجتماعي على حد سواء. الغالبيه العظمى منا لديهم ماضي سئ في طفولتهم
من الحوادث الصادمه عاطفيا مع عائلاتهم او زملائهم في المدرسه .وبما اننا جميعا مختلفون البعض منكم ربما لم يعش طفوله سيئه فلا تحتاجون الى تطبيق هذه الطريقه.
عندما كنا صغارا لم يكن بمقدورنا الرد على من يتحكمون في حياتنا او نكون حازمين معهم . للمثال اذا كان هناك شخص كثير الانتقاد فيك في طفولتك فإن انتقاداته قد تؤذيك وتلحق بك الاذى.
ولكنك لا تستطيع الرد عليه بسبب طبيعه قلقك و خوفك. ولأنك كنت طفلا فلم يكن لديك القدره على تكون حازما معه . اذن ماذا نفعل مع كميه الغضب التي خُلقت و ترسبت في نفوسنا بسبب تلك الخبرات السلبيه الماضيه .
لم يكن بإستطاعتنا ان ندفنها او نقمعها ولم يكن بمقدورنا ان نقاتل دفاعا عن انفسنا في ذاك الوقت ولم يُسمح لنا ان نعبر عن غضبنا اذن ماذا نفعل .تمهل !
لابد ان نحذر لإن الغضب واحد من اكثر المشاعر سلبيه . نريد ان نطلق غضبنا من جميع المظالم التي عانينا منها في صغرنا . ما نحتاج الى فعله هو تحرير اذهاننا
من كمية الغضب تلك حتى لا يكون للماضي سلطه علينا . السر فيما سنقوم به هو ان نتعامل مع غضبنا بطريقه ايجابيه سنتعامل مع غضبنا بشكل عام . ليس من خلال
تذكر احداث ماضينا ولكن ببساطه سنعطي اذناً لأدمغتنا لإطلاق غضبنا بطريقه شرعيه . لاحظ اننا هنا لسنا بصدد ان نغفر لأي احد ولا ان نقوم بتحليل مشاعر غضبنا نحن
ببساطه سوف نسمح لاذهاننا بأن تطلقها .

لنبدأ العمليه مع بعض العبارات التي يمكن ان تقولها لنفسك و من شأنها ان تساعدك . قم بتحرير العباره على هذا النحو .

( لقد قمت بقمع غضبي الناتج من الاعتداء العاطفي لسنوات و سنوات , و الغضب مشروع و لدي الحق لأن اغضب .
كنت صغيرا عندما حدث لي هذا و لم اكن اعرف كيفية التعامل مع هذه الحالات وهذا امر طبيعي .
على الرغم من أن هذا كان غير عادل تماما !! و اعلم ان كثرة التذمر مرارا و تكرارا سيجعل الامور اكثر سوءا فقط .
وبدلا من ذلك اخترت المضي قدما في حياتي على الرغم من أنني لا يمكن ان انسى ما حدث لي في الماضي .
لأجل نفسي و شفائي اسمح للمشاعر السلبيه القديمه ان تتحرر سواء كنت نائما او مستيقظا , واعيا او لا واعيا .
سوف اعيش الحاضر و احرر نفسي من ماضيّ ومن تلك المشاعر السلبيه )

طريقتنا التاليه قد تساعدك على ان تكون قادرا على تحرير اي غضب مكبوت و تسمى التخلي عن الماضي السلبي .